07.26.2002 10:00 AM
Losing someone you were close to, be it a family member or a friend, is hard enough. If it's self-inflicted, it's even worse. When my Dad passed away last year, it was hard (and still is), but it wasn't unexpected. The cancer had finally run its' course. But when someone decides to end it themselves, it makes it hard to understand just what went on in that person's mind.
Depression is a real entity. There's a lot in life that can bring someone to take drastic measures, but I think there's a lot in life that makes it worth living. I agree with Brad who recently commented on Gene Kan's suicide that we must take our mental health and well-being seriously - as seriously as we take exercise and nutrition. It's OK to not develop code 80 hours a day. It's OK to take leisure time. It's OK to admit feelings of tremendous emptiness and get help for it.
Neil Peart wrote in "The Pass":
no hero in your tragedy
no daring in your escape
no salutes for your surrender
nothing noble in your fate
Christ, what have you done?
That may sound a bit harsh, but I also think there's elements of truth in it as well. Ultimately, each person makes their own choice with their life. But what is there to gain with suicide? You lose everything and those who knew you well suddenly have a huge void in their lives. It's not a guilt-trip. It's just reality. If you're thinking about it, take the time to call someone. Anyone. A friend. A family member. A counselor. There's nothing to gain by abruptly stopping your life. Whatever reasons you have, talk it over with someone else. It's a decision that can affect a lot of people who really care about your well-being.
Brad, you have my condolences.
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